On the floor for Love

Except for in a Hipster office, working on the floor is widely seen as unseemly, lowly, or even dirty-in our culture it’s servant work. And yet as I think back to this day seven years ago what comes to mind is how many of my beloveds *literally* got on their hands & knees to serve […]

(Too?) High Fidelity

While this may sound bizarre to admit even though it’s a common sense fact: I know my husband may cheat on me (as may I on him). I’ve seen adultery a plenty in my life and have a great cheating & bullshit detector…I’m sure we all know the classic lines from the Cheaters Handbook, the […]

Sh*t Happens

On holiday I read the superb ‘Consolations of Philosophy’ by my hugely-admired sage of philosophy and life, Alain de Botton.  In it he educates us as to how seminal philosophers’ outlooks on life can help us navigate the choppy waters of our hearts and minds.  And this is how I met Seneca. This is a […]

Lovers’ Garden

Wandering, chasing the blue dot through a maze of verdant beauty in Madrid, I chose to cut through a grassy area, unlabelled and unnoticed, had the dot not compelled me to veer off the paved path-ironically simply to seek the grey dashed path the screen dictated. Suddenly: a rich scene with sunlight dappling through the trees, lush grass […]

I’m Tired

I’m tired… I’m tired of wanting, and not knowing what to ‘do’; I’m tired of yearning, for a life that hasn’t come true. I’m tired of pain that doesn’t ever go away; Of waking deeply aching, aches that last all day. I’m tired of not being able to fully, freely be me, Without a ‘just kidding’ disclaimer […]

Non Super Dads Aren’t so Bad

So yesterday was Fathers’ Day- a day when, it seems, every other dad on Facebook is declared to the ‘The Best’ ‘Number 1’ Dad Ever (I don’t know what the criteria is but someone may want to tell some of them that someone else has claimed the No 1 spot already; maybe the Dad of […]

Ghanaian Grief

I just had an interesting couple of conversations with my Aunt & Uncle in Ghana whose mum just died today. I called to see how they both are, expecting sad or heavy emotions but instead they both answered the phone with their usual cheery banter. Then we laughed and did our usual mickey-taking ‘hello old […]