On foreplay and virginity

Do you ever experience someone saying or doing something really small or simple, but it opens up a WHOLE NEW way of thinking for you? Well thank you Hollie McNish for doing that for me this week! I read a short poem/sketch she shared and *hey presto*, I’m deconstructing the ‘bases’ of sex and doing […]

Disabled fear

I’m not a fearful person. Thankfully. Not much makes me nervous and I am pragmatic and stoic enough to know that shit happens, both good and bad, so tell people you love them and woman up and face whatever comes. But recently I’ve felt fear for the first time because of my disabilities… I was […]

Brave Love

I’ve been thinking of late about love & forgiveness & voila, this poem came to me. It’s only after I’d finished it that I called to mind the wiser, more beautiful words of Kahlil Gibran ‘On Love’ in The Prophet so after you’re read my words, do read The Master’s! Image: GKids What is it […]

I retreated

I arrived emotionally flat, internal turmoil whirling; I sat by the garden window, I wrote poetry about the rain & flowers & I prayed, I drank coffee, I prayed, I cried, I raged, I listened to Switchfoot on loop (The Shadow Proves the Sunshine), I listened to more poetry, I prayed, I drank coffee, I […]

Seedy bread

This week, the inquest into the death a beautifully lovely girl began-she was a former student of mine. She was a rare, exceptionally kind, bright, well-loved girl. I wept a lot when she died; I’ve cried a lot this week. And I’m just a former teacher who liked & admired her. I cannot fathom the […]

Hair love as self love

It’s taken me *so* many years to LOVE my hair. Having absorbed our society’s (& thanks to the globalisation of advertising, now ‘the world’s’!) ‘only straight hair is beautiful’ narrative which tells me and others harmful lies… Lies which say: It’s not curly, it’s ‘wild’ It’s not thick it’s ‘untameable’ It’s not strong it’s ‘coarse’ […]

It takes a village to raise a marriage

So THIS happened nearly nine years ago: And in typical LB fashion, we are already planning a celebration for when we reach 10 years in one year, five months and two days time (but who’s counting!). We LBs do love to celebrate (well I do, and David’s caught the bug through osmosis); but our desire […]